Sex, Love and Marriage-Over Coming Sexual Sin

In our day we face many temptations in the realm of sex. Satan is described in the Bible as a roaring lion seeking to devour, and as a subtle serpent seeking to deceive. He knows that sex is one of the easiest realms in which to trap people and ruin their lives. Our safety lies in being self-controlled and vigilant at all times. For even in this realm, it is true that "eternal vigilance is the price of liberty".

The warnings of God's Word are meant to save us from the snares of the Enemy. God has given us many warnings in His Word - especially in the book of Proverbs. Every person should read that book frequently. Some believers have the excellent habit of reading through Proverbs once every month - a chapter a day (there are 31 chapters). It warns us in advance of the enemy's lines of approach.

If we are determined to get victory, we shall undoubtedly face a battle. But we should not give in. If we have already fallen, then let us confess our sins to God. He is faithful to forgive us and to cleanse us of all our past misdeeds and unclean thoughts. Some who have fallen deeply may have to live with the consequences of their sin, although forgiven. But if we have not fallen so far as that, then let us be watchful, for the Bible says that the one who thinks he will never fall, is the one most likely to do so.

“Wherefore he that thinketh himself to stand, let him take heed lest he fall.” (1 Corinthians 10:12).

God desires to lead us in triumph at all times.

“Now thanks be to God, who always maketh us to triumph in Christ Jesus” (2 Corinthians 2:14). May we trust Him to do so in our lives.

As just mentioned, when we do fall, it is important that we go to confession and be very transparent about our sins. What about when you must continual confess the same sin over and over? It reminds me of an article I read.

"If a regular customer sits down in a diner and says 'the usual', an experienced waitress will bring their eggs exactly to order without any more questions.

I feel like if I said 'the usual' to my confessor he’d know my list of sins as well as the diner waitress knows her regular customers’ orders. When I go to confession it sometimes seems a lot like the time before.

I commit the same sins over and over. I guess what I should ask myself is, do I really want to get these sins off my list and what am I doing to make that happen?

The way to overcome sin is to look at the causes of it in ourselves, address them, and avoid what leads us into temptation.

Make an examination of conscience at the end of the day to look at each sin in context, ask for God’s mercy and grace and make a resolution to avoid those sins the next day.

Another suggestion is to journal about it and then go back to find patterns that could lead to a trigger or circumstance causing the sin. That can give clues about how to deal with those circumstances to respond differently the next time.”

The humility you feel when having to continually confess the same thing is a part of having victory over your sin. It is only natural for the flesh to want to protect its self from any embarrassment. But as we deny our flesh, as we get to the point of saying, 'I do not care how embarrassing to have to confess the same sin over and over again, I want to be right with God first and for most!'-It is at that point that we can victory over sexual sin.

To continue from the article I read:

“It is harder to work at avoiding sin than it is to say “the usual” in confession partly because we’re kind of comfortable with those sins. They’re always there unless we decide we want to get rid of them. But change happens, if we want it.”

Create a clean heart in me, O God: and renew a right spirit within my bowels. Psalms 51:10

If any man will follow me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. Mark 8:34